Saturday, April 23, 2011

i often wonder

I often wonder if I had all the little things that I want, just the way I want them, would I just find that I want a few more things? Or would I be content, at least for a while? I think my personality is difficult for my husband to understand. I don't actually expect perfection, but I do expect that we keep trying until we can achieve goals, whether these goals are small, insignificant ones or huge, moving mountains, nearly impossible ones. As a prime example of this, I love our house, but because I want to change this or paint that or add this, Gary thinks I'm completely unsatisfied and complaining. Thankfully he doesn't see it as nagging, he just thinks that I'm already tired of our home. I don't think I'm being unreasonable for wanting a patio in the back to enjoy and invite people over for a BBQ. I don't think I'm being unreasonable because I want a new front door with AT LEAST a peephole, preferably a little glass. And I don't think I'm being unreasonable because I want to paint two rooms in our house. You don't just buy a house and plan to do nothing to it until you sell it. Of course none of my requests are have-tos. We COULD change nothing and continue on with our lives here until we've outgrown the place, but why? I think this is less of a men vs. women debate, and completely our personality types. I guess he's of the school of thought that "if it ain't broke, don't fix it." I, however, like to see things evolve, hope to improve our home so much that we won't want to move. I'm sure I'll be updating eventually on who wins this war... but I'll give you one guess who I'm betting on. :)

1 comment:

Nancy said...

I think maybe it is a man/woman thing. I know Jeff would like to change nothing except for updating technology in our house. I will be tearing down wallpaper, re-arranging furniture, and painting until I pass on from this world. I think that is what changes a house from a home. Which is why so many men don't know how to have a home until they get married and then see the process as unneeded. I'll help you paint if you'll help me. Of course, since both of us are height challenged and you are pregnant that may not be the best pairing :).

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